For this week's newsletter, I'm answering some reader questions—and the majority of them had to do with insecurities and feeling behind in life, whether in your career or your quest for a romantic relationship. Imagine what we would all be able to accomplish if we didn't have to spend so much time worrying about the arbitrary timelines set for us. Where could we redirect all that energy?
Let's be real: the human experience is weird, confusing, and beautiful, and none of us have any absolute control over our life's path. That can be exhilarating or anxiety-inducing, depending on your threshold for uncertainty. I don't have all the answers, but I know that we are not here to all live the same life on the same timeline. Over the last seven years, I've found greater acceptance for my unique journey as I've developed spiritual practices. When there are “delays” in the things I want for myself, I know that's part of the lesson if I'm willing to learn. And my lessons look different than the ones my parents are here to learn, or the ones my brothers are learning, or my best friends, or you. My prerogative is to make the most out of what I've got, learn all that I can, make an impact with the talents I've been given, and, to top it all off, I'm here to ENJOY this life.
Below, I'm answering your questions about insecurities, stress reduction, and why I'm so trusting in the universe.
Did you ever think you'd be somewhere by now that you're not?
Yes, of course. As much as I like to question our society's one-size-fits-all timeline, it's also hard to escape the pressure it creates if your life path falls anywhere outside of it. This idea that by 30, we should have everything figured out, be featured on a Forbes 30 Under 30 list, land the perfect partner, and be planning for our future family is entirely unrealistic and so not true for most people. Yet, I spent much of my mid to late twenties stressed about where my life was going, feeling somewhat unaccomplished, and I thought my life would be over if I hadn't met the man of my dreams by the time I hit the big 3-0. Who can relate?